In many ways, feeling a “click” with a therapist happens in the first session – you know when someone makes you feel comfortable or when you have more guardedness with one person than another. This can be due to nonverbal cues in addition to very evident ones. However, one important thing to consider when you want to find the right therapist in general is what you want to get out of the therapy. Do you feel like you would do better with someone who will listen and be supportive more so than being directive and more interactive? (more…)
Although many find it difficult – even painful – to say “no” when asked to do something, the ability to set limits and establish one’s personal boundaries is integral in order to feel balance in one’s life. (more…)
It is difficult to shed repeated forms of behavior, especially when they provide a form of comfort and relief. But some habits can be harmful and even hinder your daily life. In some cases, they can also have a poor effect on those around you. Luckily, it’s never too late to overcome them. (more…)
When we get married, it is easy to get caught up in the fairy tale. It’s easy to tell yourself that you’ll never have problems, and you’ll never fight. The reality is that as we get more comfortable with each other in a relationship, it becomes easier and easier to let the relationship take the back burner. In the daily hustle and bustle of taking care of work, the kids, the house, we often de-prioritize our partners. (more…)
This is a question I am often asked by couples when they are referred to me or considering coming in for this service. Certainly this is not a black or white issue and not easy to answer with a “yes” or “no.” (more…)
I was asked to comment on an article about how Twilight FanFiction has become a genre by International Business Times online because Twilight fan fiction has become such a huge phenomenon in and of itself.
“Twilight appealed to so many people on such a deep primal level. I think it tapped into a universal longing for unconditional acceptance and connection – not only from and with another person but within their own selves.”
The Twilight phenomenon extended beyond cultures and across generations, which points to something that must be experienced on a collective unconscious level – meaning that on some level this story triggers something deep within the human psyche. The fan fiction is, on the surface, an effort to hold on to a character or characters that were so beloved by many fans; I think on a deeper level, it is an expression of the triggered yearnings that underlie some of the mass interest in Twilight.
The documentary I produced, Into the Twilight Haze (www.TwilightDocumentary.com), delves into the issues above and takes a closer look at cross generational female fascination with Twilight.
Through a series of interviews with women and experts in the field of sex therapy and consciousness, and using Twilight as a vehicle for exploration, we address some of the classic questions that come up surrounding male-female dynamics:
- What do women want?
- What do men want?
- What makes relationships work?
- How can we keep passion alive in a relationship?
- What makes relationships fall apart?
- How can we feel more connected to our partners?
- How can we feel more whole as individuals?
These are just some of the many questions that are answered in our insightful and compelling documentary about Twilight and relationships.
Why The Fascination With Twilight?
Many women are drawn toward romance novels like Twilight and Fifty Shades of Grey.
The media often likes to discuss the topic of enjoying such novels/films versus being drawn in to a fantasy world; expecting our significant others to embody the characters we come to swoon over. Into The Twilight Haze explores this issue, using Twilight as a vehicle, to discover what it is about such romance novels that is so alluring to women.
It also offers valuable insights on how to differentiate between healthy expectations, illusion-based thinking, and suggestions on how to make relationships work.
My film was recently featured on US News online, where some of these issues are discussed in more depth to understand this fascination.
Why the Twilight Into The Haze Documentary was created
What is it about the Twilight saga that is so compelling to women across generations and cultures?
This question was on my mind a year and a half ago when I had several patients who talked at length with me about what the film brought up for them, not to mention numerous friends and family members. I finally decided to watch the first Twilight movie and found that, despite my assumptions that I would not buy into the hype, I really liked the movie.
I began to think about what it was that was so alluring and came up with some ideas.
But I thought it would be most interesting to ask women of all ages how they felt about it and create a documentary regarding the phenomenon while looking at it from a psychological, social-emotional level.
Why is the Twilight Fan Fiction Series so Fascinating?
Twilight appears to tap into a universal longing for a partner with whom one shares a deep, distinct connection. Through speaking to many women (both in session and for the documentary), it seemed that a major aspect that women yearn for in men is that he be accepting and attuned, while maintaining a sense of unpredictability and gently challenging her.
While reading or watching Twilight, many women reported that they experienced memories of first loves and a longing for the intensity of feelings associated with a first love experience. There was also a consistent draw to the the sexual tension between Edward and Bella and many women expressed their paradoxical feelings of appreciation for women’s sexual liberation while still nostalgic about a time when couples did not rush into sex, (thus lengthening the tension if you will).
And we all know that by tension, we are also referring to most women’s favorite part of sex: foreplay.
Here is the trailer for the Into The Twilight Haze film. To view the full film, visit the Twilight Documentary website.
What is it about the Twilight saga that is so compelling to women across generations and cultures? (more…)
Over the years, one of Dr. Dardashti’s specialties and favorite things to treat has become anxiety. This is due partially to the quick changes that can be seen; Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is very effective for anxiety. (more…)
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT Therapy) for depression and anxiety is focused on the present, involves a collaborative approach with patient and therapist, and works towards specific treatment goals. (more…)
Dr. Dardashti provides therapy, coaching, and wellness services over skype or phone for clients in other states and countries and/or when clients request this service. (more…)